Butting Heads

Sometimes I wish I had written this blog under a pen name. There are so many things that play a huge factor in my grieving process that I cannot share without causing hurt or offending a few people.  I can say there has been a great amount of pain and disappointment since George's death that I have had to learn to step away from.

So for today, let's talk about hard headed people.  We can all be hard headed about some things.  But I bet you know at least one person in your life who just seems to be hard headed about everything.  If you are lacking this kind of relationship in your life, I don't want you to miss out!   Please leave your email address in the comment area below and for the amazingly low price of $19.95 I will put you in touch with not just one, but I'll throw in a second one for free.  (Smile and a Wink) 

Maybe it is a family member.  Maybe it is a friend.  Maybe it is a co-worker.   Have mercy, can they ever be a pain!  I knew someone a long time ago who had a favorite saying, "why, he's so hard headed, he would argue with a stop sign."   

I'm game for a good thought provoking and friendly debate on an interesting topic.  But I just really don't enjoy butting heads with people.  It just seems to waste so much energy, time, and emotion.  And all either person ends up with is a sore head.  

George could debate - if you knew him you know I am speaking the truth! That boy could debate just about any issue and was extremely convincing.  You could be prepared to change your opinion about the topic after debating with him.  He had a teacher in high school, who shall remain nameless.  The kids did not like this particular class, nor this particular teacher.  She was a very opinionated person on most topics. George loved getting her distracted from the lesson plan for the day.  He would go into class with all his good looks and charm and ask her what she thought about a certain topic.  He, of course, would take the other side.  I'm told these debates would fill up the class time and proved to be hugely entertaining for his classmates.  Apparently this teacher could get quite flustered!  I would have loved to sit in on those classes!

Debating a subject is healthy if done in the right way.  We have to be willing to listen to another's opinion and think about it from their viewpoint.  It can challenge us to really think about the views we have held for so long and to question why we hold so strongly to them.  We might even find ourselves changing our minds.

Perhaps you are struggling with a hard head in your grieving process.  I know I have had to deal with a few.   There is a quote I love that says, "You don't have to attend every argument you're invited to."  That is so awesome and so true! When you are in the midst of grieving, one of the last things you need is to spend your energy butting heads with someone. Sometimes, it is perfectly fine to just nicely step away for a period of time. 

I've told you before and I'll tell you again.  I am so very blessed to have to on this journey with me!  I love receiving your comments.  No matter where you are on your own personal journey, hang in there!  You will see the 

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Blessings!
Betsy

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