When we first moved we knew we wanted to do some clearing of the land close to the house. We wanted to make room for a playground for the kids and clear out some trees, but I had no idea it was going to turn into a massive project. Well, it may not have been massive to anyone else, but to me it was.
My husband, not understanding how difficult the decision making process was for me would ask what I wanted done on this and that and whatnot. It was driving me absolutely crazy. I appreciated being included in the decision making process, but I was not in any state of mind to make any kind of good decision during that time.
I encouraged him to take the children and go visit his family in Kansas for a two week period, which he did. I NEEDED TO BE ALONE. For those two weeks I worked in the hot, humid weather, clearing and burning brush. It felt good to be busy and have my mind free from unnecessary decision making. And I could just soak in the surroundings, enjoying the same things George had enjoyed so much.
I have always heard people say that the worst thing you can do is make changes or decisions immediately following the loss of a loved one. Now, I know why, it's because you can't think straight!!!! Please hear me, because I speak from personal experience. Do NOT feel pressured to make decisions that you are not ready to make. And even if you think you are ready, wait a few months or even a year - if you don't you may regret decisions that you made in haste or that you felt pushed to make. And if you are the one pushing someone to make a decision while they are still grieving, knock it off!! (I'm smiling, but I'm very serious.)
I hope that today you will take time to relax and cut yourself some slack. Be patient with yourself and with those who are trying their best to encourage you. Hey, keep in mind that there is
Sunshine After the Storm
Blessings
Betsy
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