Hot Heads and Silent Seethers

In one of my earlier posts, "Time Out," I talked about how families can really get weird, especially when a death occurs within the family.  I feel the need to touch on that subject a bit more.

I would imagine we have all heard of families getting into rather heated disputes or engaging in silent seething for different reasons when a loved one dies.  Perhaps it is over the funeral arrangements, perhaps it is over the distribution of an inheritance, or some other reason.  If there has been any strain in the family relationship prior to the death of the loved one, it can really get rather sticky in the days surrounding and following the death.  I find it truly sad that at a time when we need to be loving and supporting one another we find ourselves dealing with what I like to call the "Hot Heads and Silent Seethers."

As I shared in my last post, "My Sister, My Friend," I had tremendous support from my her, as well as support from other family members and friends.  But I shall forever be brokenhearted over one relationship that was very special and important to me that was severed during the days surrounding George's death.  Sadly, it has yet to be repaired three years later.  

People are not always going to understand why we do the things we do.  People are not always going to agree with some of our decisions.  And when we are doing what we know and believe in our heart to be the right thing, we will, more than likely be criticized by someone.   Do the right thing anyway.  We have one person to answer to, and His opinion is the one that will ultimately matter.  

This is a difficult topic for me to discuss, because not only did I lose my son, I lost a relationship that I treasured.  So I have had two deep losses to grieve through.  Sometimes we will find that the people whom we most thought we could count on, may not be there for us.  But, I will never give up hope that the relationship will someday be restored.  God has it in His hands.  

If you find yourself in this situation, I'm truly sorry, I know how painful it can be.  Take time listen to one another with respect and an open mind and heart.  And if you have done all you can, then leave all those broken pieces in bigger hands to put back together - and His timing is perfect.  And never forget the importance of forgiveness, it will be critical to your well-being.  Hang in there and remember, there is 

Sunshine After the Storm
Blessings
Betsy